moving forward...

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I spent a lifetime of trying to manage and control situations, people and life outcomes. As a blue- collar construction manager it seemed the right thing to do. 

It was only in my later years that I learned that there was a better way.

I had to learn to be curious, to be quiet and to listen.

Everybody has a voice and needs to be heard.

Applying only logic to try to fix problems with an apparent solution is often unappreciated and unsustainable, unless the underlying emotions or hurt feelings have also been addressed. 

Most people know what solution will work for them. Often it is just being heard or acknowledged. It can take time to unpack it and identify their preferred course of action or outcomes.  

It is with this journey of self discovery that I offer my assistance and collaboration.

I have been in the construction industry most of my life and enjoy the creative processes and logic to complete a successful commercial or home renovation project.

However I have discovered that I really enjoy being a coach and help guide the emotional journey in human relationship conflict management. Coming alongside individuals to help guide a conversation that empower all parties to be heard.

To help move past a conflict by creating possibility for mutual understanding and respect.

To have courage and openness to possible change and the pain it might trigger.

To learn from our deeper emotions and see it as a strength and not a weakness.

To consider a different perspective and point of view that might have different outcomes.

I have formal training as a Conflict Resolution Mediator, Negotiator and Coach through the comprehensive training program at Justice Institute of BC, Canada.

It is however the practice of speaking with people and listening deeper to hear their story and help guide healing that really excites me.

Helping move away from the anger, fear, hurt and frustration to discover new possibilities and a new future can be life changing.

I am also trained and experienced in eldercare, ranging from accessibility and fall prevention to conversations about end of life, care planning and mid life to end end life transition planning.

Helping to address and normalize conversations that might be too sensitive or to uncomfortable. Especially where terminal illness or imminent death is a real possibility.

I am of the opinion that staying accountable to each other is the key to positive sustained change in behaviour. Promoting interdependence, confidence, resilience and ultimately independence. 

Our complementary weekly or bi weekly micro check- in using WhatsApp or text help build trust and encouragement to stay focused and accountable to each other on the journey to mental health.

My services are specifically related to implementing practical behavioural or situational changes that can be beneficial to a client in going forward. 

I am not a clinical counselor, doctor or a lawyer and will always refer clients to get medical, legal, emotional or psychiatric support elsewhere.